We are taught from a young age that winning is good and losing is bad; its bad to fail at life. But in reality it is the complete opposite, its all about the lessons you learn from these mistakes, how quickly you can realise them and grow from these experiences to make yourself a better person. Because failing is a natural part of life, it will happen to us all, and some of the most successful people in life are those that have a story of having the most failures with horrible upbringings, drug addictions, poverty, relationship nightmares bankruptcy, mental breakdowns; but why are they successful now? Its because they learnt from these experiences and grew from them and applied these things to there life relentlessly and didn’t stop, because they had been there and knew that they never wanted to go back there or re live those same failures, although they may have kept making mistakes, they wouldn’t re make the same ones.
So we need to embrace and accept that failing is apart of our life, thats going to help shape us into more experienced, knowledgable, driven people. Because if you can recognise this and your mistakes, then sit back and see where you went wrong, how this could have been avoided, what you WILL do differently next time, how this WILL be beneficial to you and others and making yourself a goal to never doing it again or working on it over time, never letting yourself get to that low again. Some mistakes are habits, that sometimes take work and can’t be stopped at the drop of a hat. This is fine, the same principle applies; recognising, assessing, planning and goal setting.
Now if you think to your past, and think about the times in your life when you have done something that seem’d a failure; It may be the time you selfishly took the ball yourself, convinced you were going to get the winning trie, but rather got taken out. knowing it or not you more then likely learnt an extremely valuable lesson that day; that when competing in team sports or frequently through out life for that matter, its necessary to work as part of a team with a common goal to achieve what we all want (to win or be successful in life). But it would have happened many times throughout your life, and sometimes we learn these lessons straight away and other times it may have taken years and years before we looked back and learnt these valuable life lessons.
So I believe its good to be more conscious of our actions and there results and rather then looking at losing and failing, see them as valuable life lessons that you have first hand experiences in and know you won’t make the same mistakes again.